There are 2 ways to learn important lessons in life: the hard way, and the harder way. Unfortunately, there’s just no easy way about it. For example one of the hard lessons is buying the trendy lacey shorts only to find out you may or may not be able to pull it off. For now, they serve as the leisure shorts…
Another important lesson we ALL can learn is how to step out of our comfort zone and it’s something I did today. Now, I blame the lacey shorts for this one – I decided to jog. Something I haven’t done in 4 years.
So I’ve been thinking a lot about time, and how we use it, and what it all means, and why we spend so much of it doing stuff that we totally resent. Like, why are you doing that thing that you really, really really, really hate?
And, of course, then I put it through a business filter, because I put everything through a business filter, and I think about all of the things in business I’ve done over the years that I didn’t love doing, but that I did, because, for some reason, success feels more deserved when the stuff is hard.
Did you catch that? Success feels more deserved when the stuff is hard. That’s a tough pill to swallow. But once upon a time I started thinking about how that was sometimes true.
And sometimes we self-sabotage ourselves so we can feel like we deserve the money we’re making.
However, make no mistake, I’m suffering along with you, too! Just because you’re suffering in your 9-5 jobs doesn’t mean that I’m not equally suffering, too, and to prove it, LOOK AT THE TORTURE I PUT MYSELF THROUGH.
I’m convinced we should all be doing as much as we can to get ourselves our of our comfort zone and get the work done, but having fun doing it. And by NOT always doing the things you love, otherwise you’re totally cheating yourself. I could have easily opened up another beer, put on more slimming looking shorts, and worked on the computer.
But I was pumped about running. In that moment I motivated myself, put on my jogging shoes, took a swig of water, stepped out of the RV, walked 50 feet to the gate and started to run – without thinking about the consequences. Because I knew that if I just did something I may regret later, I would be rewarded in the long run – of course pun intended!
So listen….because I was pumped from the beginning, I had a great start. But then my breathing started to get a heavy and the old thinking showed up: WHY, IN THE NAME OF LEISURE WALKING, WOULD ANYONE PUT THEMSELVES THROUGH THIS?!
Then I get to the point of repetition and autopilot. Where nothing is going through my mind but the moment I’m in.
I reach my turn-around point and feel pretty damn good. But about 1/3 of the way back, I start to feel tired and get lazy. To get myself out of that, I keep focusing on pumping my arms, lifting my knees, and remind myself heel-toe, heel-toe, heel-toe, heel-toe. All in fluid motion forward.
Then come the worst part. The finish line comes into view and that’s when the brain and the body have it in an all out battle. The brain says, Hey, it’s cool. You did enough. You can stop running now. But the body is saying, I’m not listening.
And that’s really what this is all about, isn’t it? Not who can torture themselves the most, in order to earn money in “the hardest hustling, rise and grind kind of way” but who can earn good money, period, and do it in a way that makes your life a joy to live. Not a sacrifice.
(Because let’s face it. Those who say they rise and grind are lying. They rising and peeing. Guaranteed)
Because pretty soon, when your mid-30’s shows up in a blink of an eye, it will seem “too late” to get your health right, and you are going to feel like not just the time it takes you to run a mile, but maybe your entire life passed you by, and you are going to wonder if you lived well.
Because living well should be the point of all of it – not just for you, but for all of us. Quality of life should be important for everyone.
And maybe, just maybe, learning to love doing those tedious things and being in that moment knowing that some of the things you hate are going to be the very thing that will help you reach your goals, and striving to experience that as much as you can is once of the most radical moves you could make.
Again my name is Kati Stage. I am the co-founder of the Workshop Warriors. We have clients who come in that are afraid to get out of their comfort zone and with just a few sessions, they are off doing what they need to do to get more leads and sales in their business. If you want to learn how to take control and not having to worry about fear holding you back from success, click on the link http://workshop.coachkati.com and we’ll help you become your best self.